Expectations are a funny thing. I feel I am someone who harbors many expectations. My expectations so often obscure my view of reality to such an extreme I cannot see things as they are or people for who they are for that matter. Dropping expectations often feels like a thin line to walk, for I fear I will become tolerant of being mistreated or detached …
Breathe Right now, where you are – breathe. Take a deep breath and imagine a rubber band around your lower ribs and inhale through the entire circumference of your ribcage. Exhale fully. Repeat three times. Take your time. Resume whatever you were doing and may your day be filled with lots of space. (photo by Tim Goedhart)
I analyze. I am continually finding myself analyzing situations and then strategizing how to best respond. At least this is what I have called it for most of my life. This obsessive analyzing has served me in many positive ways: It has made me a super problem solver. I am a tinkerer driven by a mad curiosity which results in discovered efficiencies both in my …
Welcome to 2018! I have been off in hibernation over the holidays – it is what I do every year. I visit my family at the beginning of December, my hubby heads off to his family’s house, and I stay at the casa with Travis (the cat) and hibernate. It is one of my favorite things to do each year. There is a space that …
When I meditate I focus on my out-breath. When I first begin my meditation practice, I pay attention to the qualities of the out-breath, the color, the texture, etc…. After getting settled, usually about 5 minutes, I start to pay attention more to the space around the out-breath rather than the qualities of the breath itself. As my mind starts thinking, which it always does, …
Information has an amazing ability to transform our choices and illuminate our own knowingness. At the same time, information can keep us suspended in this middle space of never being enough. We see a headline promoting something, and we think, I want that because I don’t feel like I have it in my life. We place our hope in learning about something to get away …
The pictures you see are, but of a soul your mind created. What resides in the dark places are only dark because the light has not been brought. When you shine a light on the dark by drawing your attention gently to it, a lightness comes through an illumined sense of being.
According to good old Merriam Webster, should is defined as used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone’s actions. In my opinion, the word “should” has judgment built right into the center of its meaning. Whether it is judging someone else or equally as detrimental, judging ourselves, I was always taught should equals shame.
In America, we celebrate labels which only emphasize separation all the more. It sets the stage to believe those labels mean anything; the first woman president, the first black president, the first black woman to win a race. Although these are milestones that reflect changes in society of “moving forward” and “acceptance” I feel deeply their reflection of acceptance is in and of itself a …
One of the biggest things that has led me to where I am today is understanding that everything – and I mean everything is an opportunity! Experiences happen to help us if we can only clear the fogged mirror long enough to look inside.
